Fun Facts

The question, in the first instance, and the option to answer the same, seem ridiculous at first sight – Is it not? Actually, it is not the case here. The answer for the obvious question is both “in a world” and “in the world”. The two phrases mentioned herein above, differentiated by an article, convey two different meanings and should not be construed to mean the same. Though teaching grammar is not the prime idea of this piece, you would appreciate that the usage of appropriate articles at appropriate place will change the whole context meaning of the sentence or phrase. Let me explain this aspect in this context, in unambiguous terms.

It is of course true that most of us live in two worlds – a world of our own and the world in which we live. We share this world, the material world with our fellow citizens across the globe and reap the benefits of this beautiful world in which we are a part. The natural bounty bestowed by Mother Nature to mankind is for everyone to live and enjoy. Depending upon the economic capability and one’s ability to explore the world at large to his or her requirement, one lives in the world, which is vast in size and shape, having abundant opportunities.

This is the world we inherited and where we live physically.

There is another world – a world of our own – the one that shaped our perceptions about the things around us, about the nature itself and about all things around us. The world as we see it is not the actual world as it is – it is the perception of the world in our eyes as we visualize it and perceive it to be. Let me try to explain it by means of an example. A person living in a remote village in a landlocked country, who did not get an opportunity to see or hear about a ship like Titanic, might consider the small boat ferrying people in the lake or a small river in and around his place as the only mode of water transport.

Depending upon the external environment and the atmosphere under which we grow up, we develop some perceptions and notions about the world, and presume them to be only so across the world. Though living in a vast world, each one of us considers to be a master in his or her own world, and live happily in that small world – a world of our own.

It is again this world of ours that determines where we want to go and what we want to achieve in your life worthy of being spoken of even after we depart from this world. While living in our own world, one should be flexible enough to learn, accept and adapt to things that are otherwise considered alien up to now. Be inquisitive, enquire and filled with thirst to learn and explore new things with open mind, which will, ultimately pave for success in life.

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Okay, this title may seem a little malicious. The main idea is the true fact that there are many out there that actually get a rise at seeing other people suffer. We walk a fine line of knowing it is not a good thing to ridicule, to being the cause of others pain. But when they cause the pain for themselves we have a tendency to find it a way to feel better about ourselves because at least we think we don’t make those kinds of mistakes. And what is even funnier, is that when we do make those kinds of mistakes we find it is entirely a different situation then the suffering fool we made ourselves feel better over. This is a case I’ve seen time and again. I knew something was wrong but couldn’t quite put my finger on it. I finally realized it is a tool, a jagged tool we use to feel better about ourselves or to bond with others by pointing out others problems. We seem willing to do anything these days to feel acceptable even at the cost of someone’s suffering.

Having experienced this state myself, I found it to only go in a vicious circle. As we know, what goes around comes back around, as Justin Timberlake puts it. Some call it karma. What ever it is it always comes and bits you in the butt. Thankfully, I am a person who really wants to learn to be better. I took the time to figure this one out. It is also not so easy to break this habit. Especially when people around you want you to participate otherwise you are not in the holier then thou group, until the shoe is on the other foot, and those same people are putting you out. Have you ever thought it may be a test of courage on your behalf? If you pass you may move up a space or draw a special card?

This habit has unfortunately contributed to the loss of compassion and understanding we should have for our fellow mankind. We are eating the backs of people with this manner. Breaking down another’s spirit, so to speak and I don’t want to be in that line when that comes back around. Do you?

Yes, there are people out there that may make it easy for you to think this way. But this is a habit we have to change. Just because we take time to recognize another’s suffering doesn’t make us a fool. It makes us the wiser. It doesn’t take away from our lives. Even, just being patient on another is an act that will come back to you.

Take some time to really look over your self. I bet you will see you are not that better off. If you have the non-sense or even the time to be so careless towards another person, you must not be doing so great yourself. People of stature (e.g. as people of distinction and importance) are too busy doing things that are of importance. Now, I’m not trying to get on your back about this. I just hope we would think about what it is we are thinking when we see another person in an unfortunate predicament. Stop and take a moment and see what is going on in your head. Are you laughing and thinking what an idiot? Or, are you figuring on a way you might be able to help or at least point them in the right direction? Isn’t that how you want people to think when you are in the same position?

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I finally got the idea and hope that by sharing it with you it will help you move on to building the life you deserve. I think most women have experienced a difficult relationship sometime or another and felt that it has held them back in life. Sometimes this is a continuous cycle for some women and it may lead us to blame our men, who we feel aren’t doing their part to make our lives wonderful. I used to ask myself why is it so hard to understand and deal with men.

I spent a good part of my life trying to create my ideal life with my man that I just could not get to materialize, then one day I looked up and realized my life was slipping away and all the things I wanted to do were not happening. Of course I wanted to push blame because if he would just get into my plan we could live that ideal life. And I found the more I pushed the more he pushed back. We were not getting anywhere. And for once I did the smart thing and stepped back. I did some figuring. I wasn’t going to withdrawal nor was I going to give up on the person I committed to. I had to go at this a whole other way. I needed to understand the life that was in my man. Well, one day I was just taking a walk and admiring a beautiful day and then it just hit me. Knowing a man’s upbringing is very vital to knowing the kind of man he is and guess what? We have to except this and what it has made him. Now, I now this isn’t always easy. Trust me I know first hand. But once I was able to do this and care for him and all that he was, I was able to put this issue aside.

It was not the man in my life. It was me. I was so busy trying to mold him, I ignored who he was. I was so busy scolding him I turned off my compassion for him. And we wonder why they run away. Okay, some even sneak away. Yea, it’s bad, you know what I mean.

I was overlooking the real challenge at hand. Instead of ignoring the life in my man, thinking I knew better, I should have been looking on how to unfold the layers that preserved the amazing man I new he was.

Life is hard in some way or another for everyone. But we have to take responsibility for our roles in each others lives. It is something we have to give to, not take from. I realized that I had to become the woman that the kind of man I wanted deserved. I stopped focusing on changing my man and started focusing on what I wanted to be. And there are challenges there, too. But if you really want it you will overcome the difficulties with patience and compassion. When my man realized I was busy with something else he started to wonder. Then the tables turned. I had his attention and he started to look at me in a whole other way.

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