1- Seek help. There are many people out there who are able and willing to help you at this very difficult time, especially if you are the offended party in the divorce. A counsellor might be a good place to start, someone who is trained in these matters. Ask around and find the one that is perfect for you. Another person could be your pastor or rabbi, as they deal with people all the time who are having problems in their life. Maybe you don’t have such a person, but one of your friends does, and it doesn’t hurt to discuss this issue with them. Your friends will want to help anyway and they might have another solution that is just right for you. There are also support groups out there, who will discuss your immediate troubles and have solutions for each issue involved in the process of a divorce.
2- Friends. You might have a friend who has gone through this very same situation in their life, who you will be able to discuss all the different aspects of your divorce with. Each persons story is different though, but there might be some legal ramifications which they will know all about and just telling someone else will give you ideas as to what to do too. They could direct you to a lawyer, who will do the very best job for you and give you good advice on how to proceed.
3- Make a plan for your life. Things are going to change drastically for you, and you need to find some other things to occupy your time. What is it that you’ve always wanted to do, but didn’t either have the time or money to do it, but now you might be able to. Maybe your hearts desire was to take on a project that was always put on the back burner, a special hobby, or redecorating the house. You might find yourself doing something that you never ever thought you could do, but you find out that you are quite capable, and other people will notice and want you to do that very thing for them. You just might find yourself with a new job, one which fulfills you substantially on an emotional level.
4- Keep busy. Do something of interest to you, a favour for a friend, visiting the elderly, as time on your hands can be a very dangerous place to be. You might find yourself having to make a living, as not all divorces leave a person with means to keep going financially, without a job. Look for that place of employment which you find interesting, and which will also keep food on the table. You might be very good at something which you did every day during your marriage and now there are people who are willing to pay you for doing that job for them.
5- Enjoy your freedom. You could be a person who had so many responsibilities and now you find you don’t have near as many. You have time and the finances to do other things, the things you always wanted to do, go on a trip for instance, have people in for a party, join a gym, whatever your heart always wanted to do. You now have the time, so enjoy yourself and like being the person that you are. Then again if you want a fighting chance, then go here to find out how.